What is it that makes someone likable?
Consider for a minute all the people you have met in your life.
Out of everyone you know: Who are the people you would happily surround yourself with if you could only choose a handful of people?
Lets take that to the extreme…
You’re being sent to a deserted island… you have everything you’ll need to survive. Food, drink, shelter… but it’s only going to be you and five other people of your choice.
Who do you choose to bring with you?
The schoolboy reading this post instantly thinks FIVE HOT WOMEN!
Ahhh to be young, dumb and full of c…
No son. That’s not a good plan. You’ll figure that out when you get a bit older.
Here’s what it would look like if you took five hot women, who’s only requirement is that they looked great:
- Day one, fantastic.
- Day seven, you’re good with the sex side of things… but you’re left with 23 hrs a day of boredom or bitchyness.
Lets try that again…
Who are the five that you would choose?
At some point, you’ll start to narrow down your selection using criteria that will come down to one thing.
Everything else is bearable in small doses.
- Annoying laugh – bearable.
- Unattractive – you’ll get over it.
- Talks too much – annoying at times, fun at others.
- Talks too little – there will be times you’ll enjoy the silence.
- Self centred – WHOA STOP.
See what happened there?
There are some characteristics that no matter how long you give someone, if they have that quality, you know it’ll become a dealbreaker at some point.
Lets take it futher.
Could you imagine choosing any of your five if they predominantly had those characteristics?
Life is too short to spend time with people like that!
Which brings me to my point.
Life is too short to have any of those traits ourselves!
So while it’s great to go to the gym… eat the right food, drink in moderation, work hard, own nice things, live in a big house, drive a nice car and look the part – if you don’t have good character, what do you really have?
For years I’ve chosen character first. For a decade I chose that above all else and worked on my inner man, totally neglecting my outer man.
That’s not something I would advise.
Today, I believe it’s important to make time for the outer man. To take care of my body and be careful how I treat it.
- Careful with what I eat and drink.
- Careful to get enough sleep.
- Careful to exercise and train, to keep my muscles working and my mind and heart healthy.
But while I’m doing those things, I’m mindful to continue to work on my character.
Through self inspection and healthy reflection, we can live and learn. Learn wisdom so that we can grow into better people and know what to do and how to act in the future.
I’m not one to say “I have no regrets”.
I have hundreds, if not thousands of regrets.
Regrets are valuable.
Regrets let you re-live moments from the past and learn from them, so you won’t make those mistakes in the future.
Work on your inner man as a priority.
Work on your outer man as neccessary.