Ahhh isn’t life wonderful.
Waking up to a glorious morning with a spring in your step before being greeted by your spouse with a gleaming smile as she presents you with your morning cup of coffee…
And then, everything goes sideways.
What can go wrong, does.
You’re getting blamed at work for things you have little control over…
People project their anger and frustrations on you throughout the day…
You feel the bombardment on you and deflated you knock off for the day and head home.
What hapens next?
The most difficult thing to do in these circumstances is being able to find light at the end of the tunnel. How to snap out of a negative feeling that engulfs you. How to stop the inward inspection and instead change your focus onto something else.
When your emotions take over you need to exercise your mind to regain composure.
Emotions can run a mile without moving feet. They accelerate from 0 to 100 in 0.5 seconds.
You begin having irrational thoughts. You’ll look for answers in the most obscure places. Your confidence will shake and you’ll retrace your steps second guessing anything that might bring order to the chaos.
Just know this; It’s an attack. An onslaught. An attempt to break you and bring you down.
But you can win.
Be buffetted if that’s what it takes.
Then regain your composure.
You can do that by finding your bearings. Something you know to be true. True about who you are, what you do, what you believe in and what you stand for.
That’s the truth you can hold on to.
While everything else goes to shit.. the truth will win the day.
So focus on that. Focus on the good things you see in yourself. The good outcomes you’ve brought to others. The good achievements you’ve had in your workplace.
Show some empathy towards those who attacked and hurt you. They’re hurting themselves which is why they attacked you in the first place. They don’t know how to deal with their pain.
It’s not your fault.
Sometimes life throws every egg into your basket and they all break.
Learn to be resilient. Adapt. Grow.
“The oak fought the wind and was broken, the willow bent when it must and survived.”
― Robert Jordan, The Fires of Heaven