Don’t you just hate it when you don’t know what your next move is?
Stuck in a rut.
I’ve been stuck.
- I was stuck in a job working a career that I hated.
- I was stuck on a wage that didn’t cover all my bases.
- I was stuck in an organisation that I no longer trusted.
- I was stuck with employees who took my business for granted.
Yep, I’ve been stuck.
It’s a horrible feeling when you can’t see your way forward. If it lasts for a prolonged period of time it will eat away at you. Slowly you’ll lose enthusiasm and then begin to resent what it is you’re doing.
You’ll remove yourself emotionally because you feel trapped and vulnerable. Ultimately, you’ll become numb, losing all feeling towards whatever it is you’re stuck with.
It’s destructive behaviour being stuck.
Today, I want to share with you the first step to becoming un-stuck and reveal a few ways you can gain momentum going forward and to make a real difference.
Step 1: Choose to be un-stuck.
This is the first step you’ll take in order to move forward. Choose to be un-stuck.
Recognise how being stuck is affecting you. It’s ok to admit it to yourself.
Not too long ago I rolled out of bed and groaned. That morning I was to meet with a new client who was going to pay me a lot of money to solve their problem for them. I got up and got dressed. I made myself a cup of tea and sat down with my wife Jayne.
“I’ve got a meeting to go to,” I said “But I don’t want to go.”
“Then don’t!” Jayne replied.
I’d booked a meeting with this client but I really didn’t want to have it. I didn’t want to work with them, or anyone else in that capacity any more. That morning, Jayne made it very clear. I could make the choice not to meet with that client.
It would have been really unprofessional for me not to turn up, so I did and I helped that client. But I also made a choice. I chose not to do that again.
I chose to cut off the hand that was feeding me and to never return.
I made a choice to be un-stuck.
There’s no nice way of putting this, so I’m going to just say it.
If you are sick and tired of what you’re doing, you’ve got to become sick and tired of being sick and tired. Without enough dissatisfaction people generally won’t change. We prefer to be comfortable. But when we’re really really uncomfortable, we’ll make a change.
Applied pressure is a funny thing.
If you have a deadline for an activity, you’ll often meet it.
Remember the last time your boss said to you “I need this before 5pm.”
At 4.30pm you became a productivity monster with laser-like focus and no time for anyone else. In 30 minutes you churned out some high quality work that would normally have taken you 3 hours.
You applied pressure to yourself.
Apply pressure now.
Choose to be unstuck. Give yourself a deadline. Then focus on what you can do to get out.
Step 2: Choose to open new pathways for learning
One of the biggest obstacles for all of us is our own ignorance. You’ve probably heard the phrase ‘knowledge is power’ – I think it’s more true that ‘the application of knowledge is power’. Whatever the quote, our knowledge of how things work create a framework for us to operate in. But we don’t know what we don’t know.
After sitting down with a financial advisor one day, I discovered I could leverage my finances and purchase an investment property. It didn’t require any huge savings account or a big deposit. In fact, all I was required to do was to fill in a small amount of paper work and tada! I had the money to buy an investment property.
I had no idea it would be that simple.
In my mind I thought people with investment properties had saved up all this money for months or even years before buying a property. I was wrong. But because I acted on what I thought I knew, I missed opportunities for years.
This is one area I’m now a lot better with. What changed? Now I ask questions.
Want to know something but don’t even know who to ask? Go to Quora. There are millions of people waiting to answer your questions.
Want to see how to do something? Go to YouTube. YouTube is the biggest search engine on the planet for how to guides. It’s where I always go to re-learn how to tie a windsor knot – among other things.
We are living in the information age and yet we’re often stuck with what to do next.
Choose to become un-stuck. Ask questions, search for answers. Focus. The truth is out there.